I’m 28. Over the last 6 months, I’ve learned of an increasing number of my peers (+ or – 5 years) who have been separated or divorced. Some of them I know well, others I’ve known in the past, still others are acquaintances/facebook friends. Either way, it’s heartbreaking to learn about Christian marriages ending.
In most of the circumstances, I don’t know all the details, nor do I need to know, but as far as I can see there are 3 main causes of breakdown in these marriages:
- Unfaithfulness
- One of the spouses stops claiming to be Christian
- Not dealing with small issues as they arise. These then increase and are no longer small issues but one big issue that seems too difficult to resolve.
I’m sure it’s much, much more complex than the 3 bullet points above may suggest! If you’ve recently separated or divorced, I sincerely hope you aren’t offended by this post. If your marriage is currently on rocky grounds – get help now (if you don’t know where to turn, contact me and I can hopefully point you in a helpful direction). Here’s the key questions I’m thinking through:
- How do I guard my marriage?
- How do I help my friends and those I’m ministering to, to guard their marriages?
- How do we help people adequately prepare before marriage to fight for their marriages?
Any suggestions? Feel free to leave an anonymous comment.
